Before I would just take things as they came, internalize them, be miserable about it but not voice my concern in fear of being told that I can't handle his lifestyle. Marriage is serious business and we are in it together despite our spouses shortcomings. I remember when my ex and I had invited friends to our house for a 4th of July dinner and had spent a lot of money and time getting ready. I also didn't want to push him away by overwhelming him with talks about commitment when he's already stressed. However, I believe there are rules set, and we receive certain blessings when we obey said rules. Your relationship with your family will be healed, and so will you. This also means giving her something specific to do. Of course he invited me to come with him, but he is in the wedding, so I'll be sitting there watching him in the wedding on my 30th birthday weekend.
Don't let her try to bring in the missionaries to explain; remind her that she is an RM and knows all they do and probably much more. At that point, I would have gotten half of everything we own. A quiet, hard working immigrant but dedicated and faithful. I don't mean to be rude, but she's not gonna give up her "nonsense". It's just that on days I'm working, I can't do that. I expected to find this sisterhood of wives that would comfort, uplift, and laugh with one another. The scenario where she refused to watch a possibly 'anti' documentary and wanted to watch church-sanctioned material sounds like a red flag. She can only get sealed to him in a Mormon temple. With that same attitude they will rise up on the other side of the veil. As a married female resident, I wanted to offer you the other side of this Your husbands love you, and miss you.
I will definitely take your advice and talk with him about my concerns I truely love him and want us to see eye to eye about certain issues since we are working towards being in this for the long run. I was in your same position years ago. I wanted so badly to marry a guy who had recently left the church. He just saw someone die or gave a devastating diagnosis or did an incredibly complex surgery with potential complications. While Scientology is way worse hopefully the parallels will get her thinking.
It is not easy for a nonmember spouse to understand a three hour worship block plus callings etc. MinsPackage speaks the truth. It MAY be true that she will not marry him unless he converts. The thing about General Authorities and General Conference, is that they give general counsel that is meant for the general population. What am I getting myself into. There are many catholic families with these three main ethnic groups within it.
